The Honeymoon Phase is Over? That Could Be a Good Thing

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Ah yes, the honeymoon phase. Romance is truly in the air, with your new partner meaning the world to you. They can do nothing wrong and, in your eyes, they’re simply perfect. Then, slowly by surely, that magical feeling starts wearing off. Okay, you still like them! Like, you love spending time with them and they do still make you super happy. But, why do they have to always leave the toilet seat up? And do they really need to be constantly singing old-school Motown songs?

The honeymoon phase is over. Your partner is only all and can sometimes really get on your nerves. But you know what? That could actually be a good thing…

What is the honeymoon phase?

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The honeymoon phase is that first bit in a relationship where you are completely enamored by your romantic partner. You’re constantly spending time together, gazing into each other’s eyes and declaring your love. Love is passionate and the attraction is super intense.

According to a study that investigated the physiological changes that occur during the honeymoon stage, passionate love alters your brain chemistry. It was found that high levels of nerve growth factor (NGF) are linked to feelings of euphoria in romantic partners that have only recently got together.

This wonderful phase might last from 6 months to over two years. It totally depends on the relationship! But it doesn’t last forever.

What happens when the honeymoon phase is over?

Of course, like everything good, the honeymoon phase must come to an end. When this happens, you and your romantic partner begin the next stage of your relationship. Some people call this the reality-check phase. You learn all the good and bad things about your partner, and disagreements will no doubt occur. You will annoy them sometimes, and they will annoy you sometimes too.

But, the ending of the honeymoon phase is actually the beginning of something else, and this is a good thing!

You get to know all of your partner

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The end of the honeymoon phase is great because it means that you finally get a fully-rounded view of your partner. All the negative traits that love-drunk you ignored will now come to light. This means that you get to know every aspect of your partner, and therefore learn if this person is really right for you!

The next phase of the relationship where you get to know all of your partner means that you are welcoming true love into the relationship. You learn to love all of them, including their flaws and bad habits!

You can start preparing for your future together

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The honeymoon phase is a wild ride. It is super intense, fun and exciting. However, with all that romance, you can hardly think about the future!

When the honeymoon phase is over, you can begin to prepare for your future together. The next phase of your relationship allows you to settle into your relationship and discuss serious things, such as moving in together, marriage or kids.

This ultimately deepens the connection that you and your romantic partner have for each other.

There is less pressure on you to be your best

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During the honeymoon phase, you think that your romantic partner is the best person in the world who can simply do no wrong. This kind of puts pressure on you, right?!

The ending of the honeymoon phase allows you to let your walls down and be just you. You don’t have to constantly look your best and be your most entertaining self. The romance is still there, of course, but it means you can be romantic in your sweatpants, sat on the sofa eating pizza and watching romcoms.

There is less anxiety

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At the beginning of a relationship, there is often a high level of anxiety. It can be exciting, the constant ‘where is this going?’ and the nerves that your new romantic partner gives you. But, it isn’t healthy to be in this constant nervous state.

When the honeymoon phase is over, you feel much more stable in your relationship. There is safety within the partnership, with a mutual understanding of where this is going and who you are to each other.

Enjoy the next phase of your relationship!

A lot of people think that when the honeymoon phase is over, the relationship becomes stale and loveless. This is just not true; the relationship is just as exciting and enjoyable!

When the honeymoon phase is over, you and your romantic partner begin to form a much more solid bond. You become a partnership, knowing way more about each other. You are able to truly be yourself and this is the best thing about being in a relationship! The romance doesn’t die, it simply transforms.

Lou Siday

Lou Siday

Lou Siday is a writer from North East England with a degree in Creative Writing. Having been on her own self-love journey over the last few years, she loves writing about empowerment and wellness! For Lou, communication, honesty, and mutual respect are essential when it comes to dating.


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