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How Do I Know If I Love Someone? Here Are 7 Sure Signs

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Picture the scene. You are dating a solid 10/10, and they make the butterflies flutter in your tummy every time your eyes meet theirs. You have been seeing each other for nearly six months and you simply can’t get enough of each other. One day, as you snuggle up on the couch, the words are on the tip of your tongue. Those three words that everyone dreams of saying and hearing. But then you panic. How do I know if I love someone? Do I really, actually love this wonderful human, or am I just getting carried away?

Sound familiar? Yup – the whole am-I-really-in-love panic is pretty common! But thankfully, we are here to help. We will answer the questions of what is love and what is a fling, and help you distinguish between the two. Ready to unravel the signs of love? 

It may be love

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Of course, there is no love checklist you can tick off to determine whether you are truly in love with someone. Although we kind of like the idea of a romance doctor you can go to with your symptoms of love to get a diagnosis, life just doesn’t work that way.

However, there are some key signs you can reflect upon to get the answers! Here are seven sure signs that you are in love.

You think about them every day

Does everything you see and hear remind you of that special someone? Do your friends tease you for having “mentionitis” because you always bring this person up in casual conversation?

Constantly thinking about the person you are seeing suggests that you have strong feelings for them, and this has a lot to do with science! When we are in love, dopamine is released in our brains when we think of that special someone. And dopamine makes us feel good. You know they say that love is a drug? Well, there may be some truth to that.

You want to tell them everything

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You may be in love with someone if you can’t wait to tell them about your day! Perhaps something funny happens at work, and your first thought is to tell your partner. Or, maybe you are feeling excited about a new job opportunity, and all you want to do is celebrate with that special someone. 

You feel safe with them

Does a hug from your partner seem to relieve all your worries instantly? Do you feel completely at peace when you snuggle up to them at night?

Feeling safe with someone is a strong sign that you are in love with them. When we first start dating, we often feel anxious and concerned. We may worry that they are not as into us as we are in them, or we worry about them having eyes for other people. But when we fall in love, these worries fade away to allow a settled and safe environment to grow. 

You want to fulfill their needs

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Love is a partnership defined by support and commitment. When you fall for someone, you want to make their life easier in any way you can. Doing the dishes in the morning as they snooze after a long week does not feel like a chore. In fact, you may actually enjoy it! 

A sure sign of love is your willingness and enjoyment of fulfilling their needs and helping them feel good in life. This also works the other way. You may find your partner popping out to buy your favorite sushi or running you a bubble bath after a stressful day!

You are confident in yourself

True love builds you up, not knocks you down, and reflecting on your feelings about yourself can help you determine whether you love someone or not. 

Do you feel as if the world is your oyster? Do you feel more confident in yourself, your work, and the positive effects you have on others? If so, you may be in love. In a healthy relationship, our partners act as our personal cheerleaders and their support and kind words give us a real confidence boost!

You want to work for the relationship

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Every relationship has its ups and downs, and it is up to you and your partner to solve any issues that arise to get through them and come out stronger. If you are ready and willing to work for the relationship, you probably have big feelings for them.

Have you had your first big argument? If so, did you want to call it quits? Or did your mind naturally think about ways of solving the problem? If it was the latter, you may be in love with them. 

You want to rip their clothes off

Feelings of safety and contentment are all good, but sexual compatibility is an extremely important factor when determining whether you love someone or not. Do you physically crave your partner? Are you always super excited to get alone with them and have some fun?

If you have strong sexual feelings for them, along with the other emotional love signs, it may be time to tell them your feelings and celebrate the wonderful connection you have.

It may be a fling

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So, we know the key signs of love. But are you still worried that your relationship is simply an exciting fling? Let’s look at signs that your feelings are lust and distinguish a fling from love. 

Sex is the most important thing

Sexual compatibility is a strong sign of love, but if sex is the most important thing in your relationship, it may be a fling. Reflect on your thoughts about this person when you are without them. Are they purely sexual? Or do you think about building a future together?

Love involves a deep emotional connection that is based on shared beliefs and dreams. If you don’t consider these deeper things when thinking about your partner, you may simply be having a fling. 

Conversation is never deep

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If you talk about the latest reality TV show drama but never the drama in your own life, your relationship may be a fling rather than love. To truly fall in love with someone, we need to get to know them on a deeper level. You need to know their flaws, their hopes, and their worries. If you feel a bit weird when they bring up their emotions, you probably don’t love them. 

You don't think about your future with them

When you think about where you will be this time next year, is this person prominent? Or are you just thinking about your career goals and the plans you have with your friends?

Being in love means that our partner is our priority, and we can’t really imagine a future without them. We tend to be excited about the adventures we will have with them and know that they are an important part of our future. If we don’t have these feelings, the relationship could be a fling.

You haven't met their friends or family

Meeting your partner’s family or friends is a big step and usually happens when they feel confident that the relationship will last. But if they don’t want you to meet their favorite people, it may be a fling. Similarly, if you have no wish to meet their friends, your heart may not really be in it. 

Plans are last minute

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Is your relationship defined by ‘you up’ texts? Do you rarely plan days out and dates together but simply hang out when both of you are free?

If so, your relationship may be a fling. When we are in love with someone, we want to ensure that we spend a lot of time with them. This means we will pen in date nights and adventures days in advice to make the most out of the free time we have. 

You don't do new things together

Meeting up in the same bar late at night usually means that there is only one thing on your mind – going home together. While there is a lot of excitement when you are in love about going home with them, there is also excitement about exploring the world together. If you are doing the same thing every week, you may not be in love, and the relationship may be defined by lust. 

Celebrate your love!

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Have you related to the seven signs that you are in love with your special person? If so, we at #Dating are super excited for you! Now you have figured it out, it is time to kick back, relax, and celebrate the love you share. 

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