1. Talk about the future
What goals do you and your romantic partner have? Regardless of whether you’ve found your soulmate or you’re just dating, talking about the future is important. Where do you see yourselves five years from now? This is not just a question for job interviews but for all lovebirds who want to stay on track. Are you looking in the same direction? Is there something you could achieve together? Making plans for the future and talking about your goals is going to bring you closer together. As goals evolve and change all the time, this is a great chat to have regularly.
2. Discuss the highs and lows of your days
At the end of each day, sit down together, and have a little chat about the highs and lows of your day. Take turns in sharing what went great and what didn’t. Carefully listen to your romantic partner as they talk, and don’t interrupt them. This is a great way to spend time together and improve your communication. Is there something you could say that could boost your soulmate’s self-esteem? Make sure to highlight their strengths and stay on their side. For instance, if they are feeling stressed out at work, let them know how hardworking they are.
3. Repeat what you’ve just heard
Doesn’t it hurt your self-esteem when your partner doesn’t listen to you? Truth be told, you probably don’t really listen to them every single time either. The best way to spend time together is to practice active listening because you’re wasting time when you’re not listening to each other. Talk about something for five full minutes and let your romantic partner repeat what they’ve just heard. Let them know if there is something they’ve forgotten, and make sure to practice until you can both repeat each other’s story correctly. Remember: Listen to understand, not just to reply!
4. Prepare for difficult conversations
Always make sure to think before you speak, especially when you need to say something that might not be comfortable for your partner. As a matter of fact, think about it ahead of time. If you tend to just say what’s on your mind at all times, you might not be dealing well with complex issues. When you need to discuss a sensitive topic with your partner, plan what you’ll say. Choose the appropriate time to say it, and be prepared for your partner’s reaction.
5. Talk about the hurtful things you say
Is there a lot of name-calling and hurtful statements during your fights? Talk about them when you’re not fighting and mention the worst ones. Say how they made you feel and discuss how you could respond to them in the future. Maybe you could come up with a safe word or agree on an appropriate reaction to hurtful statements. This is a great way to set boundaries and improve your communication!
6. Work on a healthier pursuer-distancer dynamic
7. Identify each other’s love language
8. Share song lyrics
Which are the songs that really speak to your soulmate? Let them recite the lyrics to you and talk about the meaning. Take turns and even listen to the songs if you want, just make sure that you discuss their meanings too. The best thing about this exercise is that you’ll understand your partner better and every time you hear those songs they’ll remind you of them.
9. Say “I” instead of “You”
Use these exercises for healthy communication and you’ll strengthen your bond. Don’t use them just once because the more you practice the more your communication will improve!