Being in a relationship definitely has its perks. You have someone who you can be yourself around, talk to and even build a family together. But sometimes, cracks start to show and you realize your relationship just isn’t all it was set out to be. There are many reasons why your relationship may be going south: maybe one of you has lost interest or is being secretive. Or maybe your partner is just different from who you thought they were. Whatever the reason, here are some clear red flags to look out for if you’re wondering whether your relationship is losing its magic (and you’re thinking that maybe you deserve better).
Relationship Red Flags to Watch Out For
They often guilt trip you
Guilt-tripping is when a person makes someone feel guilty and makes them do something, usually for their personal gain.
If you find your partner is always making you do things you don’t really want to by making you feel guilty or like you ‘owe’ it to them, that’s not a healthy dynamic. This is a sign that the person is manipulative and in some cases even abusive. Guilt-tripping is also a form of gaslighting and is a strong sign of emotional manipulation – something that you shouldn’t have to put up with!
They think they’re better than you
In a relationship we should support and encourage our partner. Sure, the both of you won’t always be on exactly the same level when it comes to things like how much you earn or what skills you have, but that shouldn’t matter.
Some people have a superiority complex which makes them think they are better than everyone else around them. This can really be a negative trait to have in a relationship and is mostly a sign of an inflated ego and a toxic personality.
They are often secretive
We all love our privacy and may even prefer to keep some things just to ourselves. That’s all well and good; it takes people time to really open up and start trusting others with their secrets, especially in the beginning of relationships.
But if the person you’re with is secretive about pretty much everything in their life, doesn’t talk to you about anything, never opens up to you and just makes you feel like a spectator in their life, it’s a very likely sign that something is a bit off with them. People love to make assumptions about what that may entail, but it’s probably best not to stick around to find out.
They very rarely say sorry
Chances are that you and your other half have had your fair share of disagreements and arguments. That’s perfectly normal. But here’s a question: are you the one who always has to apologize, even when it wasn’t your fault, just to stop fighting?
If your answer is an instant ‘yes’, you’ve got a problem on your hands. Most people never really notice this until it’s too late. Constantly arguing and always having to say sorry just for it to stop can really drain you physically and mentally. So take it from us, don’t let them take advantage of you.
They are rude to their parents
Think about this: who were the first people in our life that got close to us and loved us? Our parents.
An article from Bright Side shows us how our relationship with our parents directly affects our love life. So if your partner is generally hostile, rude or even cruel with their parents, nothing is holding them back from behaving the same way with you.
They depend on you for everything
If this is something you’ve noticed about your partner, it’s time to rethink their real intentions.
Some people enter relationships with the expectation that their partner will provide for them completely. However, if your partner is completely dependent on you, it could be a sign that that’s the only reason they are around you (simply because you can give them what they want and not because they actually like you).
They try to hide your relationship
Don’t get us wrong, we know that some people would rather keep their relationship private. And that’s fine.
But it is very different if they’re just completely trying to hide the fact that they are even in a relationship with you. This can mean a lot of things but all you need to know is that none of them are good for you. This is a major relationship red flag.